"The Language and Logic of Emotions"," It is true, that feelings often do not seem logical, especially if they belong to person 'B' and person 'A' believes that intellect is more valuable, logical or powerful than emotions. Currently, society is recognizing that the intellect is not as logical and powerful as we used to believe. The experiential approach to psychotherapy called ""Acceptance and Commitment Therapy"" by Steven Hayes, Kirk Strosahl, and Kelly Wilson puts forth a clear, scientific explanation of these problems. "" Some people try to use their ""intellectual logic"" to control others, to a degree that interrupts relationships and becomes harmful. We are constantly having emotions. If an individual was not raised, from early childhood on, to be comfortable with their emotions, it will benefit them to learn how to do so as an adult. "" No one can ""be"" an emotion. Emotions occur according to whatever is going on around and/or within us at the moment. Intellectual thinking is not involved. It is vital to learn to understand how they speak to us and appreciate how logical they are. It is helpful to use creative expression for emotions. Most people enjoy movies. Dance, music, mime, storytelling and visual art are also wonderful methods to describe the language and logic of emotion. Good visual art is designed to evoke an emotion in you. Most of us speak the language of emotions with our facial reactions, so quickly that we may not know we have done so. Imagine walking down the street and seeing someone who smiles at you. That is emotional connection. That is an example of emotional disconnection. Human beings connect through the language and logic of emotion. High intellectual ability cannot help people connect well with others. Emotions are the essence of life. If you hear yourself telling others, ""Stop being emotional!"" or ""You're too emotional!"" the problem may be in you. When everyone involved in a conflict can cope with their own and other's emotions, the conflict can deepen intimacy. If an individual cannot cope with emotions he will, often, get off the subject and begin to focus on trying to direct other people's emotions. Stay with the emotions. Listen to them with respect. Practice emotional awareness, read the book ""Emotional Awareness"" by The Dalai Lama and Paul Eckman, (2008) and learn how to be with your emotions so you can be with the emotions of others. .